Sunday, November 23, 2008

*sigh*

The Blanket Bundles were a hit at the drop off place; Nooze was cheered on for her very hard work. Not one word was said about uneven lines, sewn over areas or chaotic corners. There were many smiles and sincere thanks instead.

I was caught (by the volunteer) apologizing for the blankets' appearance. She smiled, quietly shook her head, and acknowledged the effort instead. I was grateful for this diversion. This was apparently only the second year of this outreach program, and there are plans to continue for years to come. There is definitely a need.

I never realized how quick I am to apologize for anything less than perfection on Nooze's part. Yet, when other children are involved, I only see the EFFORT. I guess it's normal, but it bothers me anyway.

That would be why, at this moment, Nooze is in the kitchen creating her own chore chart. It is backwards (rules on the right, rather than the left), uneven (squares/lines); the entire list is completely chaotic. She just brought it in for me to see. So, although my brain is screaming "Fix it!", I am simply smiling instead. It is taking everything in me not to correct her spelling of 'vacuum'. It'll be all right, though. She's drawing pictures to go with the list...

In orange highlighter.

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11 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Precious!

November 23, 2008 4:46 PM  
Blogger themom said...

Adorable...and to throw the restraint in....priceless.

November 23, 2008 5:44 PM  
Blogger Evil Twin's Wife said...

I know exactly how you feel. The perfectionist in me wanted to turn my kids into that as well. I've learned to let go of that - and enjoy the chaos. :-)

November 23, 2008 7:36 PM  
Blogger Linda said...

not a bit OCD or anal-retentive, are we?

I'm like that too, though...what's cute for other kids won't do for mine....dirty ice cream face on the neighbor's daughter? Oh, it's SWEET...but my son has a speck on his chin? "c'mere boy, I'm gonna use super-mommy-spit on your huge dirt spot on your face...can't you stay clean????"....sigh...

November 24, 2008 12:27 AM  
Blogger Juliness said...

Yeay for orange highlighter! And good for you for doing the "smile and nod" thing with your precious Nooze. She will remember your acceptance and encouragement long after forgetting the crooked lines on the chore chart.

(Speaking to the future me here too! Because I can totally see myself in the blanket story.)

November 24, 2008 8:44 AM  
Blogger Tracy Lynn said...

Well done, you, because I happen to know that My Nooze is PRACTICALLY PERFECT IN EVERY WAY.

November 24, 2008 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cherish it while you can! It goes so quickly. You need to read Let Me Hold You Longer by Karen Kingsbury!!!!

November 24, 2008 3:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh btw the anonymous poster is your sister!!1 Sorry...still can't remember my stupid password!

November 24, 2008 3:51 PM  
Blogger tiff said...

Ah yes, the eternal battle. Look at it this way - every step you allow da Nooze to take toward independence give you a little breathing room.

I suck at it, BTW, but have vowed to keep practicing so that my kids know what success for their own efforts feels like. I suspect that another 15 to 20 years of practice ought to about do it.

You have nothing to worry about with your gal. She is wonderful!

November 25, 2008 7:13 AM  
Blogger Chickie said...

Oh man, I hear you. It is so hard for me to not pick apart things when the boys do them.

I usually keep my lips zipped and rant to Sweety later.

November 26, 2008 11:55 AM  
Blogger Sarah said...

My mom is of the school that apologizes for presents before they're opened. Are you by any chance related?

And it's always easier to feel the need to right the perceived wrongs with your own kid than with someone else's. Good for you for just letting her do some things.

Orange highlighter? Ha!

November 26, 2008 12:42 PM  

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