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I was emptying Nooze's backpack when I found it. It was a simple, homemade card covered in crayoned butterflies, hearts, flowers. Nooze's name was spelled wrong.
Now curious, opened the card. What I found made my blood boil.
[ Nooze], When others tease you, just ask them to plasse stop. Then walk away. It will be okay. I am your frend and I love you. Your frend, *"
My kid is being teased at school.
Having been the recipient of much teasing back in the day - and being married to one of the Hottest Nerds from North of Bangor, I have always dreaded this possibility. I always hoped that, being smart, slim, tall and kindhearted, Nooze would somehow escape this particularly cruel reality. Or that Chachi and I could somehow protect her from others.
Stupid hope.
Nooze walked into the kitchen as I put the card down. Saying nothing at first, she quietly crossed the room and wrapped her arms around me. After a few moments, she whispered, "Were you ever teased, Momma?"
Fighting the urge to go Mama Bear on her and demand the names of thosestupid jerks kids that were mean to her, I simply nodded.
"Oh" was all she said.
I took a deep breath, and, in a tone I prayed was even, I asked what they were saying to her.
"Well," she whispered, "It depends. Sometimes it's about how I get good grades [I tell them that you make me study, since my job is being a student], or because I have freckles, or because I'm tall. Sometimes they run by, point and yell 'Yer a stoopid giiiirl!' "
"So the people that tease you are boys?" I asked.
She nodded.
And what do you say to them when they do this?" I asked.
"Mostly nothing," she answered.
"Mostly?" I responded.
"Yeah. I really want to say something, but I don't."
"What do you want to say?" I asked.
"Well," she grinned, "I want to say 'I know you think I'm cute'."
I raised my eyebrows in mock surprise as she winked and continued through the room.
That's my girl, I thought.
She's going to be just fine. With frends like *, she'll be even better.
Now curious, opened the card. What I found made my blood boil.
[ Nooze], When others tease you, just ask them to plasse stop. Then walk away. It will be okay. I am your frend and I love you. Your frend, *"
My kid is being teased at school.
Having been the recipient of much teasing back in the day - and being married to one of the Hottest Nerds from North of Bangor, I have always dreaded this possibility. I always hoped that, being smart, slim, tall and kindhearted, Nooze would somehow escape this particularly cruel reality. Or that Chachi and I could somehow protect her from others.
Stupid hope.
Nooze walked into the kitchen as I put the card down. Saying nothing at first, she quietly crossed the room and wrapped her arms around me. After a few moments, she whispered, "Were you ever teased, Momma?"
Fighting the urge to go Mama Bear on her and demand the names of those
"Oh" was all she said.
I took a deep breath, and, in a tone I prayed was even, I asked what they were saying to her.
"Well," she whispered, "It depends. Sometimes it's about how I get good grades [I tell them that you make me study, since my job is being a student], or because I have freckles, or because I'm tall. Sometimes they run by, point and yell 'Yer a stoopid giiiirl!' "
"So the people that tease you are boys?" I asked.
She nodded.
And what do you say to them when they do this?" I asked.
"Mostly nothing," she answered.
"Mostly?" I responded.
"Yeah. I really want to say something, but I don't."
"What do you want to say?" I asked.
"Well," she grinned, "I want to say 'I know you think I'm cute'."
I raised my eyebrows in mock surprise as she winked and continued through the room.
That's my girl, I thought.
She's going to be just fine. With frends like *, she'll be even better.
posted by rennratt at 3:41 PM
18 Comments:
Bless her smart little heart!! and when the girls tease her, it will be because of jealousy. I had tons of that in school and it was hard.
Two of my kids were teased at school too, and for one of them, I had to go to his teachers (quietly) to make them aware of what was happening, so they could talk to the boys who did it. After they got a talking to, they quit and became friends with my boy again.
Good for Nooze! I wish I'd had her confidence (and her friend *) when I was that age. So long as she retains belief in herself, the teasing hopefully won't get to her too much. But being a teenage girl is never easy. I wish her luck!
And I think you handled that admirably!
I wish it were as simple for Buddy. He attends a private Christian (Catholic) school and we've been dealing with bullying since he was in Kindergarten. Unfortunately, there is only one class per grade, so the kids he was in K with are now the kids he is ready to graduate 5th grade with. He does have some good friends, so I never had the heart to pull him out. It stinks....
LOL... Nooze has got the right attitude.
Smart girls rule. Sadly, the stuff that is most likely to make you happy and successful as adults, is likely to get you teased as a kid.
I love that child! Good thing I don't live close or I would definitely go "Auntie Bear". I am so proud of both You and Nooze!!!
What a confident person she is. It is unfortunate that some feel they have to be cruel to others, in order to make an impression with "their" crowd. Nooze will definitely win out in the end! Yay!!!
Now that's an awesome kid! lol
Ah...sweet baby. Freckles rock, by the way.
I love her.
Aw! Love her attitude. She should totally say it :)
And then punch them in the head.
nooze sounds wise beyond her years.
I think Nooze has been paying attention to her mama. How else would she have developed such a great attitude?
Dude, all kids get teased at some point in their student career. The fact that the Amazing Nooze handles it so well is a tribute to the skills of her parents.
She is definitely gonna grow up to use the Pocket Full Of Bite Me.
It's hard to be teased...but she's got the right attitude for it...and the right mom for the job, too.
Hannah's having adjustment problems here. She can't understand why the kids are all mean, and can't seem to "break in" to the groups they've formed. That has been my fear about moving mid-year. sigh.
That's one smart kid you've got on your hands. Mouthing back while keeping a sense of humor/sarcasm works much better than letting them know it bothers you. Oh, if only every bullied kid had a friend like she does.
Chickie TOTALLY has the right idea.
Hugs to all at TEOTGW.
This woman-in-training is the awesome. Good job.
Man, I'd hate to be those boys in another few years. Revenge is sweet.
And friend "*"? Also awesome.
Smart chicks rule.
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